I welcome everyone in my work.

So, to begin with, I need to say that I am 31 years old and the letter that I want to write to myself to a 26-year-old will relate to the topic of friendship and love. Since by the age of 31 you already understand definitively what friendship is and what love is, without any philosophical misconceptions.

And you understand the most important thing how important it is to preserve and nourish these two aspects of the relationship. For example, everything turned out to be simple in friendship when I was 26, I was just starting my career after uni and there was no time for other friends either. Most have already started a family and some daredevils even have children. You are amazed at their endurance, because for me it was unnatural without a firm future to take such responsibility and even bring a new person into this world. Therefore, he slowly went into a career and worked tirelessly, sometimes completely forgetting about friendship. It was at that moment that many friends had great difficulties and often could not help, especially those who moved to another city.

That's how we stopped seeing each other, although after so many years we are calling up and communicating, we already admit to each other that friendship needed to be kept and nourished. It is always easier to go through difficulties together, which throws us life. 2 friends went bankrupt and became hostages of banks, although we tried to dissuade the company. But here it was already about family and friends were taking desperate steps because of housing for the family. Well, now they have to work at an average job, which turned out to be the most convenient for a family person and because of this is not the most highly paid. Also, in connection with this load, the guys began to throw themselves and their development. Sports, travel is already the subject of dreams. Why is this happening? I asked myself the question until I was 28 years old, before I started actively looking for answers to this.

Time management is the solution for such cases when life loads a person from all sides, it is necessary to take a fundamentally tough approach to solving these tasks and build life as efficiently as possible and allocate time only for the important. Only these games, meetings in bars take a lot of time and attention, from which the goal goes into the background. It is easier to relax after work than to devote them to the family or the development of new skills for the sake of the future. It seems like the usual rules of self-development, to place accents in life and go strictly to the goal, but 99% of people cannot master it. Friendship is also an aspect of life and you need to pay due attention to it. Therefore, the balance in life and happiness requires a responsible approach and utmost aspiration. In general, the aspect of friendship among friends has faded into the background, if not out of life altogether. Many people have to be dragged out by force to meetings, which still end up with uncontrolled drinking of alcohol))

Therefore, I would strongly advise a 26-year-old to devote time to this and not to expunge him from life in any case. After all, a career is not the main thing in life, but people with whom you can share happiness and adversity. There is no substitute for the support of friends, and with age it is acutely felt!

The second piece of advice concerns love or the fact that you can not completely go into a relationship with your head. This applies only to men! After all, for a man in life, the main thing is a goal, a dream. You need to first build a life, a career and take place as a person and only then climb to another person. It's a pity that it went wrong and a lot of mistakes were made because of this. How many experiences were due to the fact that you become obsessed with a person so much that then you are afraid of losing him. Because of this, the relationship went into decline. Interestingly, after such a relationship, it's even a shame to remember them, because after all the experiences inside everything subsides and only negative moments remain in memory, which crossed out all the happy moments at the beginning of the relationship. Love doesn't live for three years, love lives endlessly until it becomes an obsession. Therefore, I would strictly forbid myself to violate a person's personal space and accept the fact that a partner is a separate person and we need our own life. And love would seal these 2 lives.

I don't consider these things to be a pleasant experience or something without which I wouldn't have taken place. I believe that I could have avoided these mistakes and lived these years much happier. But due to inexperience and surrendering to feelings, we do reckless things that can not always be experienced on love feelings alone. Love and everyday life are 2 sides of the same coin, to which you need to be ready and be patient and shove your pride far away!